Notes of a riot

Last night (8/8/11) the riots, which began in London following the shooting of a suspected gang member, spread out across the country and reached Birmingham City Centre around 7pm. Mindless violence, arson, looting and muggings continued right into the early hours of this morning leaving many areas in and around the city centre destroyed. This post compiles a selection of the news coverage surrounding the Birmingham riots.

Birmingham Riots 2011 Tumblr

At 7.44pm a live update of the events happening in Birmingham City Centre began, which went on to detail the senseless violence and destruction over a 7 hour period; with a blogger known as @CaseyRain posting pictures, videos and comments from the public showing the progress of the riots throughout the city centre and out into areas such as Kings Heath, Hansworth and Walsall. Below are some of the comments left by vigilant members of the blogosphere on the live Tumblr:

• 8:38 pm - kidsxheroes said: "Friends of mine in the city (who are now trying to get out) have said The Square Peg pub on Corporation St has been smashed up too."
• 9:04 pm - Reports of riots spreading to Chelmsley Wood, Perry Barr, Aston, Erdington, Handsworth…
• 10:26 pm - thepoetmagi said: "The Childrens hospital has been hit. Rioters were smashing windows and attempted to bomb steelhouse lane police station. My friends mum was there and was escorted out of the hospital by police. I assume other people were too!!"
• 12:55 am - Police station fire in Handsworth confirmed. Also reports of looting at Cash & Carry on Nineveh Road and elsewhere around Handsworth. Reports of trouble in Northfield and Selly Oak as well as the gay quarter in city centre where a man was apparently attacked by a gang of people and stomped on before being pulled to safety by a
  passing car, outside of the Missing Bar.
• 1:38 am - doodus said: "Something kicked off about 20 mins ago on Portland Rd, Edgbaston, by the Rainbow Casino. Heavy police presence, lots of shouting, a couple of shifty looking guys hanging out in driveways & behind bins, road was partly blocked and a few heavies turned up in cars.

To see the full scope of last night's events visit: http://birminghamriots2011.tumblr.com/

The Mirror

Headline: "Birmingham riots: 100 arrests as youths bring chaos to Bullring area"

Police in Birmingham have arrested around 100 people after rioters and looters rampaged across the city centre, mirroring the chaotic scenes in London.

Scores of shop windows and doors – including sportswear and mobile phones stores – were smashed by gangs as frightened shoppers and city workers looked on.

Assistant Chief Constable Sharon Rowe said: “We will not tolerate mindless violence anywhere in the West Midlands and are working hard to ensure that the offenders are identified and caught as soon as possible.”

For the full story visit: http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/top-stories/2011/08/09/birmingham-riots-100-arrests-as-youths-bring-chaos-to-bullring-area-115875-23330961/

Youtube

Vast numbers of videos of the rioting and looting have gone up on Youtube over the last 12 hours. This BBC video seems to perfectly display the mindless vandalism which occurred yesterday:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZY-kaVSCw3Y&NR=1

The Telegraph

Headline: "Birmingham hit by riots as internet campaign encourages violence"

As an estimated 200 youths, many of them hooded or masked, congregated, West Midlands police put up a half-mile exclusion zone around the Bullring shopping centre, which shut early at 6.40pm.

Onlookers described thugs running with knives through New Street and one photographer was set upon by a group who beat him and stole his camera.

Police were prepared for trouble after a campaign on Facebook, BlackBerry Messenger and Twitter warned of violence and encouraged others to get involved.

For the full story visit: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/crime/8690273/Birmingham-hit-by-riots-as-internet-campaign-encourages-violence.html

My thoughts

The reports go on and on, with many conflicting views as to what was really behind the rioting and looting. There have been some suggestions that it was related to an increase in taxes, whilst other reports claim that it is because of the recession. Personally I fail to see either of these as being a valid excuse. Most of the looting was caused by opportunists, who jumped on the back of the rioting in order to bag themselves some free stuff from places such as Primark, Addidas and Footlocker. And this was only further proven when a spate of muggings occurred on buses in areas such as Walsall and Hansworth towards the later part of the night.

The destructing and widespread damage caused by these uneducated and violent thugs is nothing short of idiotic. If any of this was for a real purpose or cause, that has once again been lost in the senseless acts of violence, theft and vandalism that you caused in your own city - just as it was with the peaceful student protests that spiraled out of control in January of this year. Whatever point some of you felt you had to make you went about it completely the wrong way. Violence solves nothing, it only fuels the resilience of the authorities against your cause. You will not be heroes for your actions, you will only be seen as the scum which tarrs our city's name. Rebels without a cause, and no right-minded person will ever take you seriously.

I was truly proud to see the support for the police that has sprung up overnight. They handled the situation as best they could, with somewhat limited resources I might add. Facebook this morning is full of campaign pages supporting the amazing work of the police force and riot teams who worked through the night to protect our city, despite being massively outnumbered on all accounts.

This morning Twitter is brimming with unity and a sense of local togetherness with http://www.riotcleanup.com/ forming to help the nation join together to correct the mistakes of last night. Hundreds of people have headed to the Bull at 10am this morning to help put our city centre back together, and nothing makes me more proud to be a Brummie than to see how our sense of community stands tall in the face of all this mindless destruction.

What happened in Birmingham last night was worthless, pointless and disgusting. When it boils down to it, our city has been attacked by our own...and for what? I hope the stolen gear and senseless rage you showed last night were worth it, because today our local economy will be suffering as our businesses try to put themselves back together, and the residents and workers of the city - who's property and jobs you have put in jeopardy - will be trying to make sense of why they had to be caught up in the destruction you inflicted for your completely lost cause.

It is poignant to note, however, that amongst the broken glass and burnt out stores one thing remains solid as a rock - and that is Birmingham's sense of what is good and right, along with the knowledge that we are at our strongest when we are united. Be proud to be a part of the Birmingham community and support that in whatever way you can.

Fruits of July

July has been a less than favourable month for me weather wise, but we did get a few good days so I whipped up some nice little outfits for my sunny moments.

The necklace is H&M (£12) and was a gift from one of my Women Folk, the top is actually borrowed from my sister - but I have it on good authority that it is also H&M - and the skirt is Primark (£16). Topped off with my favourite Primark bling for £2, and the good-old horse belt for £1.50. I wore this out for my friend's birthday as it was dressy enough for a celebration without being too much for a bar crawl in the middle of the afternoon. The skirt is just beautiful on, as it's so light and floaty.

The top is a Topshop steal for £12 in last year's sale I believe, the shorts are New Look (£16), the tights are Primark (£2) and the brogues are also a Primarni classic for £8. And of course the horse belt is making another appearance! I obviously wear it far too much...! This is a great summer outfit if the weather outside is looking far from summery, as the shorts keep in current but the tights keep you dry.

The double denim look has always been a tricky one but I was hoping I'd got the right mixture just keeping it to the top half? Sunglasses are New Look (£5), the denim shirt is from an ex-catalogue store in the Bullring Link called Hypnotic where everything is £7 (bargain!), the denim crop is Topshop (£16), the leggings are Primark (£5) and the boots are New Look are were only £21.99 - which is the best money I've spent on shoes in a long time as these boots will last an age. I wore this camping recently but it would work equally well as festival-wear, as it's comfortable, casual and a bit edgy.

I'm always on the hunt for new trends and can never seem to stick to one style of dress for too long, so stay tuned for more monthly updates.

On the hunt

This week has brought about the start of my forth week as an official ex-student, so I thought I'd let you all know how I've been getting on in my quest to become a fully-fledged Journo.

To date I have applied for around 20 different jobs, ranging from writer, online reporter, social media manager, press officer...if it's media related you can pretty much bet I've applied for it. I have gone out of my way not to limit myself to one particular area of the media industry in my first steps towards finding a job, as I think whatever position I manage to secure straight out of Uni has the possibility to teach me so much about the industry I so badly crave to work in. Plus, as a fresh-faced Uni graduate, I don't have years of industry experience stacked under my belt so just getting a foot in the door at this early stage of my career is taxing enough.

I have so far secured myself a place freelancing for The Experts.co.uk, where I am now a Fashion and Trend writer for their online platform. It's a on a pay-per-article basis, but at only 400 words a piece it's hardly long hard labour, so I can usually knock out several in an afternoon; making a bit of extra money for myself and helping to build my published portfolio in the process.

I did get one knock-back a couple of weeks ago, unfortunately. I was denied the chance to be interviewed for a position as a Social Media and Content Manager for a PR company based in the Custard Factory, Birmingham. However, I didn't allow myself to become too down about this, as I lost out on the job simply due to a lack of industry experience. It wasn't that I wasn't right for the job, or that I really just cannot write, but simply that I am a graduate and they had a high volume of much more experienced applicants. The nice people at the PR company even emailed me to say that despite them choosing to progress with the more experienced applicants, my application was a very strong one for a entry level or graduate position - so that cheered me up a fair bit!

I have also had some interest back about my application to become the Press Officer for a Birmingham law firm, and just yesterday I received a response regarding my application to become a graduate Communications Executive - so I am very much hoping that one of these positions is right for me.

It can be incredibly frustrating job hunting post-graduation because you are so desperate to get out into the real world and start making the most of your degree. After all, it has taken three long hard years of your life, and it is nice when you can put it to good use. The main problem with job hunting post-graduation is that you are up against all of the other graduates who are sporting the same qualifications as you. This is where your attempts to involve yourself in your chosen industry by carrying out unpaid work placements really helps to boost your appeal to potential employers.

If I could give any undergraduates some advice about preparing for the world of work after graduation, it would comprise of two elements. Firstly, make the effort to take on as many work placements as possible, don't just preform the required hours. There is no excuse for not doing a few weeks over the holidays, as this shows a real willingness to learn and an enthusiasm to work in your chosen industry. Secondly, start searching early. One of my friends started job hunting a couple of weeks before graduation and she is the only one to be offered a full time job so far. If you leave it too late you end up having to compete with a whole heap more graduates, and that quite obviously narrows your chances. Believe me, this was the big mistake on my part!

I shall keep you updated with the job hunt and any other little pointers I discover along the way. Keep your fingers crossed for me though, as I could already be on to something good...

June Delights

I realised I haven't produced a Fashion wishlist post in a while now so I thought I'd share with you some of my favourite outfits from June 2011.

The top is Primark (£12), the belt is Primark (£1.50), the jeans are New Look (£15.99) and the shoes are H&M (£7.99). I love this outfit because it's comfortable, can be worn as day-wear but is still quite sexy thanks to the sheer fabric of the top.

This whole outfit is Primark - The denim jacket is £15, the top is £4, the belt is £1.50, the bag was £8, the skirt was £8 and the shoes are £18. I love this outfit because it is so summery. You can dress the skirt down with flat shoes or glads, or dress it up for a night out with big heels as I have above.

The jacket was a steal from the H&M sale at only £10! The dress is New Look's Apricot range (£27.99) and the shoes are Primark (£12). I wore this out for my sister's birthday meal in the Mailbox and the outfit turned a few heads, so I'd say it was definitely a winner.

You may have also noticed my obsession with the Primark horse belt, as I have got it on in every picture! I don't wear it every day, but it does just go with so many outfits that I can't help throwing it on all the time. Well worth the £1.50!

I shall update again soon with more monthly favourites.

The Negative Consequences of a Drunken Fool

I know I have been a bad blogger as of late, but the last few months of Uni have stretched me to my limits and finding the time to sit and write for leisure's sake rather than for the needs of my course was an impossibility unfortunately. However, Uni is now over and I am now off out into the world of work (I shall keep you posted on the job hunt over the following weeks) - but until the eagerly awaited day comes when a great company decides they simply cannot function without me and snaps me up as their latest recruit, I have the time to dedicate to my writing here on Twenty-one and Invincible.

So...I'm back and boy have I got a story for you! Having been invisibly tied to my computer for the last two months on an almost permanent basis I decided that my first week as an official ex-student should be spent catching up with my friends, who I have to admit I had neglected whilst in my darkest hours of facing many looming deadlines. So first stop was a drink in my local with the lads.

As it was a Sunday, I was hardly expecting it to be a mad one, but certain people had other ideas! On arrival I found one of my friends to be suffering the pitfalls of that old chestnut "one too many" - he was loud, lairy and somewhat out of control, so his car keys were confiscated and he was sent up to one of the B&B rooms to sleep it off. So that was one of us down and out already, and it had barely gone 9 o'clock!

As the night progressed, the drinks flowed and frivolity took over. The pub had the jukebox blaring and myself and some other pub-goers got up for a dance. There was lots of silliness and a fair bit of banter - even some impromptu pole dancing lessons of behalf of myself and a very fit and healthy 60 year-old - but it was all in good fun, and everyone was having a good time.

Little did we know that the devil "one too many" was about to rear it's ugly head again so soon. What follows next is still a little bit of blur, as it happened too fast for me to register, so you will have to bare with me. I was propped up on the bar, rooting around in my bag for my phone or lipgloss or something of the like, when I felt this heavy weight press down on my left shoulder. It was so heavy in fact that my knees gave way and I struggled not to fall off my 6-inch heels! I looked over my shoulder to tell whoever it was leaning on me to remove themselves, when I heard this almighty smash and was immediately showered with bits of broken glass and china.

At this point I think I was momentarily in shock as I tried to register what had happened. The pub had gone completely silent and all eyes were on me and the destruction that now surrounded me. I turned around to find a drunken fool grinning like a Cheshire cat at the antique lamp hanging above my head which he had just smashed into a million pieces. I did not see how this had happened of course, but was informed later that this gentleman had been attempting some Jackie Chan moves and had round-house kicked the lamp over my head, whilst using me as a prop to help propel himself off the floor!

Once the immediate shock of being showered in broken glass had worn off and I had checked I was not cut or bleeding, I suddenly realised how incredibly lucky I was not to have been seriously injured. If I had turned to look over my other shoulder at the exact moment that this fool had kicked the lamp this story might be a very different one, as my face would have been towards the barrage of broken china and glass and I could have been scarred for life or even blinded. Upon realising this I think it is fair to say I lost my temper quite a bit, and though I shall not detail the ins and outs of my torrent here, the gentleman it was aimed at got the very clear impression that I was not best pleased with his actions. He was, of course, escorted from the pub by several friends of mine, who were not too pleased with his sudden out burst of material arts either.

As silly as it may sound in hindsight, I could not get over how lucky I had been. If the glass had hit my face instead of the back of my head who knows the lasting damage it could of caused. For simply being in the wrong place at the wrong time I could be suffering from a serious injury now, and that really is just unthinkable.

Thankfully I wasn't seriously hurt, just a little shaken up by how reckless some people can be when they've been drinking. This man was well into his forties and may possibly have had children not far from my age, yet he had little to no concern for my well-being at all. He knew full well that I was right underneath the lamp he was about to smash to pieces and even held on to me whilst he did it, so there was never any chance that I wouldn't have ended up covered in broken glass. We all do stupid things under the influence of alcohol; many of us will have woken up and remembered sending an embarrassing text to an ex, mixing up your words as you try to talk or even falling over due to your inebriation - but the only person that is really affecting is yourself. I have never caused harm to another person because of what I have had to drink, and I would like to think I never will.

It is these little incidents that make you realise that "one too many" is not always just the cause of some rather outrageous banter; sometimes it can be the reason why someone ends up seriously hurt, and as a forty-something he should really have known better. I did receive a lovely big bunch of flowers the following day by way of an apology, but I still think that the gentleman in question needs to consider the fact that his drunken tom-foolery could have resulted in a very nasty situation, and it was not just himself that he could have ended up hurting. So much for a quiet drink in the pub ay!

Eat better, sleep better, be better?

After a month of back to back parties I am glad to be having a few weeks off the beer and without the late nights to re-cooperate. After all, I'm a twenty-one year old who's starting to look every inch her age...and then some! So as May rolls into play, and with my dissertation, project and exhibition deadlines looming on the horizon, I have had a new burst of "better myself" energy and have made a solid resolution to eat better, sleep more, exercise as often as I can and be more focused on my work.

This all started after I spent Sunday afternoon rolling around on a sun lounger in the back garden thanks to the mammoth hangover I'd induced as a result of three - yes three - 21st birthdays over the previous two days. Although it was the last of them, I entered the new week feeling so run down and under the weather it was unreal. There is definitely such a thing as overdoing it, and that's certainly what I had done.

So, I came home from work Monday, had a decent tea of pasta and meatballs and then scurried off to bed as soon as I could to rest up, and be up bright and early the next day. Tuesday I woke at 8am, went straight down stairs and wrote an article for my final year project and then got stuck in to a good chunk of dissertation writing - and all before lunch. By the time the evening rolled around, I was feeling much calmer and more relaxed, knowing I had done my work and made the most of my day, so I treated myself to a meal out with the boyfriend, followed by a quiet night in.

After complaining about how rough I felt and how run down I'd been to the Mr for most of the night, he made a point of suggesting it might be down to my rather poor, mostly junk-filled diet. I was just about to protest when I realised that he was probably right. I'm very lucky that I can eat whatever I want and barely put on a pound; I've never been on a diet and usually only exercise in the run up to a holiday. But I really don't think I put half the stuff I should into my system, as I'm not a lover of fruit and veg and I don't eat a great deal of red meat either - so there must be some major nutrients and vitamins that I'm just not getting.

So, first step towards a healthier me came with a resolution to eat more fruit and veg. So far I've managed an orange and a jacket potato, but it's a start! Secondly I have decided to get back to the gym more often, although it has been hard with all the work I've had on. I've seen it as being an hour in the gym that could be spent doing my work and therefore I've barely been going, but I did go for an hour-long jog last night and did a set of stomach crunches when I got home - and I do feel all the better for it today.

Further more, I have decided that as there are probably a few nutrients and vitamins that my diet doesn't include very often I should probably give my body a helping hand in that department, so I'm setting out tomorrow in search of general Good Health vitamins to try and balance out what my system is likely to be missing. Don't worry, I'm not going to get crazy and pepped up on diet pills - that definitely is not what I need - but taking some all-round good health vitamins and maybe drinking some herbal tea every day can only do good things for me.

So, the health kick has started once again, and I'll keep you updated on how it goes. I do wonder how long it will last for this time?! But having said that, I'm off on holiday in July and I do need to be looking far better than I am doing right now. Wish me luck!

Diary of a Birmingham Party Girl (March)

She’s back, and boy has she been busy! In this month’s diary snippet, The Party Girl has been searching further afield than just the City Centre, as has been sampling venues in places from Tyburn to Moseley. With reviews on another 4 venues, sit back and enjoy the Diary of a Birmingham Party Girl...

March 10^th – Nandos

It’s the boyfriend’s birthday today, and despite being told it was my treat and he could go any where he wanted, he chose Nandos at The Fort Shopping Centre, out near Tyburn. Hardly the lavish birthday meal I was expecting him to opt for, but for a chicken-lover such as he is, there is no better place. It is quite simply a spicy chicken haven!

Famous for its unique Peri-Peri marinade, Nandos is a bustling and often busy restaurant chain that serves a wide variety of Mexican chicken dishes to suit all tastes. The restaurant was brightly lit, with colourful paintings on the walls and an authentic Mexican theme throughout.

The menu is quite unique in it’s design, as you choose your main, then you choose from a selection of sides, then you choose the spice of the marinade on your chicken (ranging from plain to extra hot), and then you can choose to an extra such as cheese to your burger or Peri-Peri salt to your fries.

You can choose from chicken on the bone, family platters, burgers, pittas and wraps as your main, and add chips, spicy rice, corn on the cob, and even Macho peas (made with parsley, mint and chilli). It’s not all just chicken on the menu though, as Nandos also offer a Steak Roll and Veggie, Beanie and Mushroom burgers, wraps and pittas too.

Prices for most main meals are in the region of £8-£9 for a main with two sides, so it certainly won’t break the bank and you do get good portion sizes. Nandos also has its own range of Peri-Peri sauces that you can taste and try, and I love to splash a selection of these all over my burger and chips!

It does feel slightly like an upmarket fast-food restaurant in some ways, as you have to order your food at the till and pay upfront – and it can be quiet noisy and crowded at times. The food, however, makes up for all of that. Nandos has to be one of my favourite places to eat; it’s reasonably priced, the portion sizes are definitely enough to fill you up and there really isn’t anything quite like Nandos chicken.

March 24^th – Llyods Bar & Walkabout

Tonight Arcane’s Press Officer Rachel and I headed to Birmingham for a spot of fun and frivolity, whilst we discussed the future plans for Arcane. It turned out to be an eventful evening for all the wrong reasons, but that’s another story entirely! So instead I’ll just stick to telling you all about the two venues we visited tonight.

We first headed to Llyods Bar, which was surprisingly quite for a Thursday. The bouncers took about ten minutes to check our IDs and let us in (as they were too busy messing around with their phones taking pictures of themselves, would you believe), which could be a reason for why there were no other young people in the whole place except for us! We then waited a further five minutes at the bar, despite the fact we were the only ones waiting to be served, as the bar staff were too busy talking to notice we were waiting. Not a great start to the evening at all really.

I have always liked the layout of Broad Street’s Lloyds Bar, as there are plenty of places to sit, and a separate dance floor area, so that you can choose to get up and dance or sit down and relax – which is a nice change from most of the bars and clubs in Birmingham, as most have very little seating and you have no choice but to stand on the dance floor all night, even if you don’t want to dance.

The drinks aren’t too pricey, as it is another conquest of the Wetherspoons group (see February’s Diary for full drinks and food list), but for me the atmosphere was all wrong tonight. It’s usually a lively and exciting bar to be in of a weekend, but tonight we sat in near silence amongst a large group of business men and woman, who were just there to wind down after a hard days work. They weren’t doing anything wrong in that, but it definitely didn’t have the upbeat party atmosphere we were looking for, so we moved on.

Instead we headed next door to Walkabout, which quite frankly was a mistake this evening! Once we had queued to have our IDs checked, and then queued to pay our entry fee, we then spent a good 20 minutes queuing at the bar. I do understand that it was busy in there, but after Rachel had already been served the barmaid walked away without bothering to serve me, and went off to serve down the other end of the very long bar. I must have stood there for ages trying to catch the attention of someone, and it was only when I started huffing at the fact that people who had just arrived at the bar were getting served before me, did the barman who had been ignoring me for ten minutes decide it was finally my turn!

Other than the ridiculously long wait at the bar, I can’t really complain about Walkabout. The drinks are cheap, with lots of £1 shots and special offers on Vodka Redbulls and cocktails, and the music is always good in my opinion. The main point of interest for me was the great atmosphere the place had in comparison to where we had just come from. There was definitely a party vibe, which is exactly what we were looking for. The one thing that can be guaranteed with Walkabout is that it will always be full of young people and students, and there is always a good party vibe – so if that’s what you’re looking for on a night out, then Walkabout might just be the place to head.

March 30^th – Diwan Restaurant

This evening I joined the rather crazy women of Pinsent Masons law firm (in Birmingham) for a meal at a small Indian restaurant in Moseley. I wanted to wander a bit further afield in my search of great venues in Birmingham, and I thought it would be interesting to see where other people choose to spend their time, so the Diwan Restaurant seemed the ideal place.

I have to say, the place totally won me over. It might have been down to the brilliant company I was keeping this evening, but I’ve got the feeling it had much more to do with the delicious food on offer. The only whinge for me really was that we were a large party of about ten, and yet they had squished us together on a table not really big enough to hold eight of us. We did ask to have a bigger table, and the restaurant wasn’t that busy when we arrived that we couldn’t have been given a bit more room, but they didn’t seem to appreciate the fact that we ended up having to climb into our seats and had next-to-no elbow room whatsoever!

Other than that slight niggle, however, the Diwan is a lovely place. The staff were friendly, the service was prompt and the menu is vast and filled with plenty of choice. The Diwan doesn’t have an alcohol licence, which might be a problem for some, but as I see it it’s a chance to “bring a bottle” instead of spending loads on expensive drinks during the night.

They have a vast range of starters (including the delightful Diwan Kebab – say it fast and see the comedy value!), mains and desserts – with mixed and half portions of the mains, meaning you can order exactly what you like, and mix and match to get the perfect meal for you. The Nann bread we had was the size of the table, and the staff will even offer to alter dishes to fit your specific tastes or dietary needs, as all food is prepared fresh and as ordered.

We got everything we had asked for, just the way we liked it, and being as we were such a large table we even got free coffees with the bill. Each and every woman at the table said her food was just divine, and when the bill came it was barely £10 per head for each person’s starters and mains – so the staff made double that it tips! Despite being a bit out of the way, the Diwan is not far from town, and has free roadside parking seconds from the door. It is definitely a must-try if you are a lover of Indian cuisine and looking for something a bit different to what you have locally.

April's Amazing Fashion Wishlist - London Style

April's Fashion Wishlist has been altered slightly, as I spent this weekend down in London, pounding the paving slabs of Oxford Street and beyond in search of simple and elegant key pieces with which to update my flagging wardrobe. It's not been the easiest month to be out splashing the cash on clothes, shoes and accessories, as I have no less than seven - yes 7 - birthday's this month. That, for those who aren't so great at maths, amounts to seven birthday presents, seven birthday parties and seven birthday outfits!

Luckily for me (in some ways) six of my friends have double booked their party dates on two separate weekends - meaning that I will be driving to Cannock and then back to Coleshill one Saturday night, the following Friday I will be driving to Selly Oak and then back to Water Orton in the one night and then on the Saturday of that weekend I will be at a joint birthday party - so technically for those six birthdays I will only have to find three outfits. Which is a slight blessing.

So for most of the parties I am making do with what I already own, as I have a habit of hoarding party dresses and barely wearing them once in a year, before I go out and purchase more party outfits. This year, however, I have been sensible and have just bought things I actually needed (or wanted that much I'd have died walking away from them!).

For this month's Amazing Fashion Wishlist I thought I'd split it into two topics of fashion - daywear necessities I picked up in London, and party dresses I am intending to wear to my numerous parties. So, without any further adieu I shall get on with displaying my most recent set of purchases from that there London town.

Three-story Primark

One of my favourite things about London's shopping hub is the three-story Primark they have located at the far end of Oxford Street. After arriving in London and picking up lunch in Holborn on the Saturday, myself and my family headed straight to Primark and got stuck in.

The only item of clothing I actually ended buying form Primark was this white, lace tassel crop top (£8). It does look lovely on, and the tassels along the hem means that there isn't too much tummy on show which helps! While the weather isn't at it's brightest I'm just going to wear it with jeans or leggings - although I am now in constant fear of snagging it on something as there are so many tiny threads hanging off it! So no hugs for me in this top, me thinks!

I bought these wedge thong sandals from Primark too (£12). I have lots of pairs of brown or tan gladiator sandals and wedges, but only one pair of black summer shoes, and they don't go with anything I own now really. I don't normally like flower detailing on shoes, but the way these have been done looks really nice, and not too girly either - which is a pet hate of mine! They're suede so even though they rubbed to start with I'm hoping they will soften up soon enough. I also love the slight wedge to them, as I think it makes your feet look much nicer than in flat-soled shoes. But that's just me being extra weird!

On the accessories front Primark did well for quirky detailing. I bought this raffia style cross-body bag for a tiny £6. It's not the biggest bag in the world, and with my purse, keys and phone in there's barely room for a lip gloss, but it is really nice and practical for when you need your hands free (to shop or hold drinks etc!). Plus, it's got a really summery feel to it and it will go with loads of clothes I own.

I also bought this horse buckle waist

belt, which I just fell in love with. It was a minuscule £1.50, and it's going to look great wrapped round plenty of my summer dresses to give them that extra touch of vintage. I really struggle to find waist belts that fit me as I'm so tiny, but this one is perfect and I can't wait to wear it now.

Further more, I treated myself to some hold-up style tights which have been huge this year. I love patterned tights of all varieties, and these are my new crush. They just look so sexy with anything, and they make a real statement of any outfit. Plus, they are much easier to wear than real stockings! Primark make a decent pair for £3, which is drastically cheaper than River Island's £15 pair. They will all rip in the end, so why fork out a fortune for them? At £3 you could easily afford to stockpile them for the next few months.

I got a tad excited by Primark's jewellery as well - as usual! I bought this heavy duty chain for £3.50, which really does weigh a ton! I think it looks quite vintage and it's a simple accessory to add to most outfits to help style them up a bit more. I also bought a gold fig leaf necklace (£2.50) and a gold leaf ring (£2) which snakes up your finger, as I thought they would also help give a bit more of a vintage look to some of my outfits. I don't do dainty jewellery, so the chain on the necklace could do with being a bit bigger in my opinion - but they're all beautiful really!

H&M heaven

H&M is normally my safe haven for clothes, as I'm guaranteed to come away with something lovely for a tiny price. I can normally buy half the shop, but there just didn't seem to be all that much on offer in London sadly so I left with these cute camel pumps (£8) in the end. These will be great in the summer with jeans, dresses and skirts. The neutral colour means they can go with almost anything as well, which is a bonus!

New Look loving

I ended my shopping spree in New Look, where I picked up a fair few key pieces for my summer wardrobe. Firstly, this Spanish-style floral off-the-shoulder dress (£28) is to die for. They do it in white and red as well, but I stuck to black so that I could easily match it with my new Primark sandals. It has a great ruffled neckline, a nipped in waist band to add shape, and is the perfect leg-length for petites like myself. I am going to live in this dress this summer, it is bang on trend!

This blue ripped edge t-shirt (£8) is basically a simple version of my more elaborate Primark top, but I think with jeans or my high-waisted shorts it's going to look quite special. They do it in a variety of colours and it's a nice yet simple day top to throw on and look good in. With my Primark chain and my H&M shoes I think this is going to look great - much better than it does in this picture any way!

Finally, I managed to get my hands on some light blue, high-waisted jeans (£16). As a short arse I really struggle to find good quality fitted jeans, so I have resorted to buying kids jeans to make sure they fit properly! Laugh all you want but kids jeans don't have added VAT so who's really winning? Almost all of the jeans I have bought over the last couple of years have been New Look kidswear, and they do make some really lovely, well fitting designs. The high waist on these will help vamp up a few of my current outfits, and the light blue is really striking in the sunny weather. Plus, they're very light on, and are almost like a jegging rather than a jean - so they're extra comfortable too.

I am...Editor

My sincerest apologies for not blogging more these last few weeks, but my Uni work has officially taken over! I currently run my own Birmingham-based events website "Arcane Magazine", and with me having to post and update it with new articles almost everyday, I'm finding it hard to do anything but work on that at the minute.

But fear not faithful Twenty-one and Invincible followers, I am back and I have plenty going on this month to keep you interested - and hopefully make up for lacking in the quick witted and humorous story department as of late!

I thought I'd use this post to share with you a little bit about the magazine that is currently taking over my life, in the hope that you will see why I have had to neglect blogging on here recently in favour of pushing myself forward in my budding career as an established Birmingham journalist.

Arcane Magazine has been up and running since the end of February this year, and what started as a print publication with a blog to run alongside as an extra bit of content for the magazine, has now become a full-blown online magazine, updated almost every day with news bites, previews, reviews, interviews, exclusives and features - as well as video and image content and interactive maps to support my written work.

The team consists of myself as Editor, Clare Evans as a freelance writer, and Rachel Powell (from The Life Of A Pee-Pod) as Press Officer. Being that we are a small team, I write a good 90% of the content myself, I have produced all the video/image slideshows and other interactive content myself so far, I designed and maintain the website itself, I manage the email account and liaisons with interviewees/event hosts, as well as producing and maintaining the online marketing of the site (through Facebook, Twitter, Youtube and Flickr accounts).

Clare writes a handful of prearranged previews for me every month, as well as contributing her own ideas and articles as and when she stumbles across them. I have recently upped Rachel's input into the magazine by bringing her in on more of the marketing and promotion for the business. She has started by helping with online marketing campaigns, and hopefully over the next few weeks she will be producing press releases and contact lists for event companies and venues in Birmingham which we could work with and report upon.

Arcane covers a vast range of local and hyper local events happening in and around Birmingham, including club nights, drinks promotions, sporting events, dance and comedy shows, music performances, fashion events...and so much more in between that I'd struggle to list it all here.

Arcane also prides itself on the special retrospect events which we cover, which involve any event which could be seen as being a blast from the past; a forgotten pastime, which once thrilled and delighted our predecessors and has become a mere memory as time has moved on. We at Arcane want to bring these great events back to the forefront, and in doing so we hope to bring back the sense of community in the area of Birmingham which, again, over time has been lost.

As part of our strive to help bring back the sense of community in Birmingham, myself and Rachel ran a week-long "I Love Brum" campaign, where we asked people to post and tweet about why they loved Birmingham. The response was great, and Rachel managed to triple the amount of people who followed Arcane online in less then three days!

We had so many great comments about Birmingham, and the campaign really seemed to get people engaged and thinking about why they enjoyed being a Brummie - so I think we achieved exactly what we set out to do, which brought people to the site and created that sense of community that we had been looking for.

As the magazine has evolved and developed, I have already begun to see more interest in Arcane and what we have to offer, as recently I have had people contacting me asking me to write about their events and help to promote them - and people have been more than willing to conduct interviews with me and send me any info and pictures I might need to accompany my articles. This morning I even got up to find an email off a freelance graphic designer asking if Arcane would like to work with him on upcoming projects. To top it all, Arcane is now being promoted on another long-established Birmingham website/blog called Created in Birmingham, which has been running since 2006 and has a vast following online.

I feel like Arcane is fast becoming a legitimate Birmingham magazine, and our popularity and online community is growing daily. For three students who are essentially running this out of their own homes, we don't seem to be doing to bad with Arcane at all. I can't speak for the other members of the team, but this is more than just a final year project for me. This is a chance for me to showcase what I'm made of and show people in the industry what I can produce. But most of all, I feel a real tie to Arcane because I am passionate about Birmingham as a place, and passionate about the great people within it who make these awesome events a reality.

I have met some really interesting and inspiring people since I have been running Arcane, and by helping to promote the great things that they are doing I feel like I'm a part of all the great things that are happening in my local area - a fact which really cements my beliefs about why I'm training to be a journalist, and why I feel I'm in the right profession. Hopefully Arcane will continue to grow and progress over the next few months, and I do hope all who read this will support me in my work. You can visit the site at http://whatsonarcane.com/, so please feel free to stop by and be involved in Arcane.

March's Marvelous Fashion Wishlist

This month it's all about off-the-shoulder numbers, deep plunge necklines and pleats.

Off the shoulder - with Spring in the air it's time to show a bit of shoulder

H&M have got it spot on with this mustard yellow floral creation (£34.99). Short, silky and with statement shoulder detailing, this will look great with sandals in the day, and colour-pop mustard yellow heels for the night. Do like they do and add a wide tan belt to complete the look.

If you're a bit weary about baring your pre-holiday tan legs this early on in the year, why not opt for an off the shoulder top instead. Most varieties will look great with maxi skirts or jeans, so there is no need to reach for the fake tan just yet.

This beautiful coral one shoulder top

from River Island (£39.99) is a tad on the pricey side, but the colour is going to be key to any Spring 2011 wardrobe. The chiffon material gives it a light, floaty feel and the layering gives a much more designer look. The only downside, for me at least, is that I'm not a big fan of corsages, and this one is nondetachable so that does spoil it a bit for me.

Deep-plunge necklines - strictly eveningwear, with a V so deep it leaves very little to the imagination!

This is a bold and brave look to pull off, but done right it can leave you looking breath-taking.

This look requires a specialist bra which won't show through, or for you to be the bravest of them all and go bra-less - there is NO space for bra straps on show here.

This Asos plunge neck top is highly risky, but very sexy with it's mesh underlay. Covered in tiny silver studs and with draped ruffled sleeves, this is a must-buy to tackle the deep plunge trend. And with the bonus that it is now only £10 (down from £28), I order you to get online and

buy it now, before it's too late.

After trawling the highstreet stores, I have found that Lipsy seems to be the undisputed Queen of plunge neck dresses, with a huge range of party frocks which far outdoes any other highstreet brand. This Jewelled plunge neck dress comes in a vast range of colours and prints and is my pick of the bunch. You won't need much more than a few sparkles, some big heels and a smile with this dress, so snap yours up quick while stocks last.

Pleats - on tops, dress, camis...you name it, it will look better pleated.

I am off for a major shopping trip to London in three weeks, and this Primark coral pleated skirt (£8) is top of my hit list. I have had my eye on this for weeks, but I have been waiting for the warmer weather to appear as this is clearly a bare-legs and sandals skirt - not a black tights and boots look! I am utterly in love with the colour, the shape and the length - although the navy blue version is also very cute. I'm planning to wear this with a plain racer back vest for a casual yet chic daytime look.

This beautiful pleated Topshop creation (£42) is also officially on my wishlist. Despite them labeling it coral, I think it's much more of a fiery red, and this is going to look great of an evening with some strapey heels. The sleeveless look is another key statement of Spring 2011, and the lace detailing on the upper part of the dress gives it a whole other dimension. This is a must ladies, but you will have to fight me for it!

Lust Item

I have hand picked one Lust Item for March and this, for me, is the one. This Forever 21 sky blue floral dress (£21.80) is my top buy for March, as it is simply gorgeous and can be worn so many different ways. Dress it down for the day with over the knee socks and brogues, or in the sunny weather with tan sandals and a rope belt, or even out of an evening with some sky-high wedges and a cute clutch bag. I love the colour, the floral print is in-keeping with the Spring 2011 trend and the ruffle detailing around the hem gives it a much more designer look.

Diary of a Birmingham Party Girl

As I am in full editor swing at the minute, I thought I'd share with you all a sneak preview of Arcane Magazine's first feature reviews...Diary of Birmingham Party Girl. Feel free to comment and make suggestions. It's all about improvement for me.

Diary of a Birmingham Party Girl

In the run up to the first ever edition of Arcane, our Editor Louise decided she should get out and about in Birmingham and see what the city has to offer – and she certainly didn’t do it by halves! With reviews on no less than 7 venues, sit back and enjoy the Diary of a Birmingham Party Girl...

February 1^st – Pitcher and Piano

Tonight my best friend and I were out celebrating some personal successes, as we have both done well recently in our professional careers and decided that this was a definite cause for a trip to Birmingham City Centre. We headed to Brindley Place for a quiet drink near the canal side, and chose The Pitcher and Piano to spend the night in.

The venue is laid out beautifully, with plenty of seating, comfy sofas to relax on and a roaring open fire to warm your bones near. From the ground floor, you can look down to the basement room below – which is far from dingy, and instead is bright and welcoming; opening onto the canal side in the warmer weather.

Considering the venues upmarket feel, the price list was not bad at all. Red, White and Rose wine from £3.45 by the glass or £13.25 a bottle. The Pitcher and Piano has a wide variety of draught and bottled beer and cider, as well as a nice selection of shorts and spirits – but it is their cocktail menu that really impresses. With a massive choice of no less than 34 different cocktails and shots, ranging from the classic Mojito to the more exotic Choc a L’Organe – which is an exciting mix of vodka, Cointrea chocolate liqueur, milk and cream – there is sure to be something to suit everyone’s tastes, and many of the cocktails are as little as £6.25 a glass.

However, as this was intended to be a night of celebration for my friend and I, we opted for something with a bit more fizz. The Pitcher and Piano also boasts a decent selection of sparking wines and champagnes, ranging from as little as £18, right up to the extravagant £150 a bottle bubbly. Seeing as how we were not out to break the bank that night, we opted for the £18 Segura Viudas Cava and it was so nice we had another one!

The Pitcher and Piano gets the thumbs up from me, and after hearing they serve food as well, I have a feeling I’ll be popping back there before too long.

February 3^rd – Big Wok and Indi Bar

Having barely recovered from my trip to the Pitcher and Piano and our two bottles of bubbly, I headed out tonight for an evening of fun, frivolity and fancy dress to celebrate Chinese New Year with some of my fellow journalists and industry peers. As it is Year of the Rabbit, we had each donned a pair of bunny ears and headed first to the Big Wok for a meal, before drinks at Indi Bar in the Arcadian.

If I’m totally honest, there are very few Chinese buffet restaurants which don’t feel like the school hall at dinner time, but the Big Wok definitely hadn’t done much to make the dining experience any more pleasurable. The place was hugely noisy, cold and the layout and decor screams greasy spoon cafe – which is a real shame as the food was really very good. They have a wide variety of different dishes on offer, and the freshly made chicken satays were a really nice touch. At only £9.99 for the evening menu, I could hardly complain at the price, but in all truth I have been to much nicer Chinese buffets, and the Big Wok could really do with a revamp.

From there we headed over to Indi Bar in the Arcadian, which is quite a small bar with very little seating, and most of the space is reserved for the DJ and the dance floor – but it somehow suits its purpose. The drinks are really cheap, and it’s not hard to see why this is a student favourite. On a Thursday, when we went, selected drinks are as little as £1 – with draught beer only £1.50 a pint and bottles of wine only £6.

The music is mostly current chart toppers, with some dance and old school R&B thrown in for good measure. Overall, it’s a nice bar, with cheap drinks and a good atmosphere, its only downside being it is quite small so it does get crowded quickly, and the lack of seating is a problem if you aren’t the type to be on the dance floor all night.

February 9^th – Briar Rose and The Victoria

Tonight an old school friend and I decided to have a catch up over dinner and drinks, and so we headed off to the Briar Rose for some food, before heading to The Victoria pub for some drinks later. The Briar Rose is part of the Wetherspoon family, so the menu boasts the same good value for menu and wide range as the others in the chain. The meals are substantial and they really are very good value for money, with many options on the menu falling under the “meal and a free drink” promotion which is offered throughout the week – and, as with the other Wetherspoon restaurants, they offer a wide variety of drinks from across the world. They are one of the only places I know which sell my favourite foreign beer, Efes, so that always goes down well with me! The bar staff were friendly, the food was prompt, there was plenty of seating and the whole bar is nicely decorated and has a warm atmosphere.

After dinner we headed to The Victoria pub, which has become one of my favourite places to drink over the last year. During the week, it keeps its appearance of a quiet local pub - despite it’s location in the city centre – but of a weekend it comes to life with two rooms of alternative and indie music and classic 60s, 70s and 80s records too. The prices are a bit steeper than other pubs in the area, but the atmosphere in The Vic is second to none. With bookcases around the seating areas, carpeted dance floors and antique furniture, it takes you back in time through both the music and the decor of the place. An absolute must for all serious music lovers!

February 10^th – Ask restaurant

Ask is a fabulous Italian restaurant chain, which seems to often be overlooked by food lovers for some reason – despite the fact that in my opinion it produces some of the best Italian food I have ever eaten. I took my best friend for dinner there tonight, and she loved it just as much as I did! With a wide menu of authentic Italian pasta, pizza and risotto dishes (to name but a few), and a bustling and interesting atmosphere it will appeal to all lovers of Italian food – and a fair few who aren’t I should imagine!

The Penne Paesana (pesto drenched pasta, with pine nuts, mushrooms and strips of garlic chicken) is my favourite dish, and at only £8.95 you could afford to eat there every week. Ask also offer great 2-for-1 offers several times a month, so if you want a tasty treat without the hefty price tag I’d suggest you sign up to their mailing list and start receiving the great deals they have on offer.

March 2^nd – Reflex

Having been crazy busy recently, and not managing to get further than my local pub most weekends, I finally made it back to Birmingham tonight for a long-overdue trip to Reflex. Reflex is THE place for 80s music, and ever since I have been old enough to go, this club has to be my favourite on Broad Street.

Venues which are part of a chain usually guarantees you cheap drinks promotions, and you will not be disappointed with Reflex’s offerings. Most bottles, including beer and alcopops, are just £1.49, double vodka Redbulls are only £1.99, and each Thursday all cocktails are £1.99. Bring on the Cheeky Vimto!

The music is great, the atmosphere is great and the whole night is always a blast. Everything from the revolving dance floor, to the DIY pole-dancing podiums just screams wild night out, and my friends and I just cannot get enough of the place.

That’s it for now folks, but for more reviews in Diary of a Birmingham Party Girl visit www.arcanemagazine.wordpress.com to read Louise’s blog.

The curse of the birthday bash

Sunday was an eventful night in my humble home-town, to say the very least. One of my good friends was turning 24, and had arranged to have a few drinks in a couple of pubs here in Coleshill. Nothing big, just a nice, cheerful evening out to celebrate his birthday. Well, that was the plan any way, and couldn't have been further from what we actually experienced that night!

I caught up with the Birthday Boy and our other friends about 9pm, by which time he was already on the Sambuca's and any chance of a quiet drink had long flown out the window! Although little did we realise that our slightly-too-merry with the drink mate was going to be the least of our worries, as less than five minutes later there was screams, shouts, shots and a whole heap of smashed glasses.

What started as a silly scrap between a teenage Blues fan and a teenage Arsenal fan, turned into a whole pub brawl, with men hitting women and women throwing glasses. It was like the mosh pit at a Slipknot gig all of a sudden, and people who didn't even know what was happening were just getting involved for the hell of it apparently! Your's truly was excluded from that of course, as I'd grabbed my bag and my drink and taken cover in the corner. Getting a smack in the face was certainly not on my list of to-do's for the night. Tables full of drinks were knocked over, there was smashed glass every where and more black eyes than I could count. The police were called in the end, and it all diffused, but not before the Birthday Boy's cousin was given a nice shiner for his troubles!

And so, when the dust had finally settled, myself and the other sensible fellows in the group hijacked the Birthday Boy and moved him on to another pub. It was a much nicer atmosphere over the road and I'd just settled down with an ice-cold beer to enjoy the rest of the night, when the next big drama occurred. Whilst outside smoking, one of the lads from our group had spotted a rather drunk regular from the pub trying to walk home. He had stopped him and asked if he was alright, but he insisted he was fine and headed off into a dark alleyway between two buildings. Seconds later, our friend watched opened mouthed as the drunk regular tripped and fell face-first into the pavement - before lying there, unconscious in a muddy puddle.

Naturally our friend went to check on him, and when he couldn't rouse him, he rushed back inside the pub to call for help. And so it was that myself and the Birthday Boy had to help carry our poor drunk regular back inside the pub, and up into the B&B to lie down. It was only then I noticed he had split his eye open and was bleeding quite badly. Obviously this meant one thing only: Nurse Louise to the rescue. So there I sat, on a night out, mopping up the forehead of one highly inebriated fellow, whilst he muttered drunken apologies for being an inconvenience. Shameful as this is to admit, although I was very worried for his safety, I couldn't help but think: "Don't you dare get blood on my nice top!". I mean, how would I have explained that to my parents?

After that the night finally calmed down a bit, with nothing more than a few tears and drunken ramblings on the behalf of the Birthday Boy, but it got me thinking about a few things. Firstly, to those who started the fight, I would just like to make one thing clear - football is only a game, and is certainly not a reason to start kicking seven shades out of each other. Secondly, for all those who joined in with the ridiculous fight, have you no shame? You were throwing punches at people you didn't even know, for a reason you didn't even understand. Are you cavemen and women, because I thought the rest of us had evolved beyond the need for senseless violence? Thirdly, for all those who like a bit too much of a drink, learn your limits. Our drunk regular could have woken up face down in a puddle, having been mugged or beaten or worse. He could've ended up in a hospital bed, being treated for concussion and alcohol poisoning. Sort it out!

It also got me thinking about the curse of the birthday bash, as Sunday - like many others I can remember - was the result of another overly-dramatic birthday night. It seems that every party I've been to in years has ended in tears for one reason or another. Either there's been an argument, or a fight, or a falling out. Or someone's been sick, or gone missing. My 20th was a nightmare, and my 21st nearly ended up heading down the same road. A fair few of the Women Folk's birthday's have fallen foul of the birthday bash curse, and I'm sure Ray would agree some of her's have been far from perfect. It just seems that any night out where you label it a Birthday Party is doomed to end in disaster - and it's all drama, drama, drama. And so, with a month of solid birthday parties heading my way this April, I'm asking for a little gift of my own - just one, great drama-free night. Fingers-crossed for me on that one ay!

Career Crossroads

My lovely boyfriend whisked me away yesterday (25/02/11) for a romantic stay at the Hilton Hotel, complete with a dip in the jacuzzi, and yummy evening meal and a fair few drinks. We had a great time, and as the conversation flowed we stumbled onto the topic of career choices, and spent a fair bit of the evening debating the pros and cons of obtaining a successful career.

I have always been extremely career-driven, and I have always believed that I was born to write. When I was younger and the teachers would set you the task of making a poster for homework, I'd always ask if I could design a newspaper or a magazine instead. While the other kids were happy colouring in, I wanted to write and to explore the English language as best I could at that young age.

That passion has stayed with me throughout my life, and now that I am nearing the end of my University education, and the world of work is beckoning, I've had to start contemplating where I want my life to go after Uni.

The most likely prospect for me at my current age and experience is to get a job at a regional newspaper, like the Birmingham Mail where I worked for a week earlier in the year - or perhaps to try and crack my way into the fashion/woman's magazine business. In many respects I'm happy to sit back and see where my life progresses on it's own; see what opportunities arise and how my career pans out. But I do have aspirations to travel with my job, and I'd love to report on world news and international current affairs one day.

I've always loved the idea of working in a real journalistic hub, such as London or New York, but this is where my problem arises. As I'm sure you have all gathered by now, I have built a pretty great life for myself right here in Birmingham. I live in a nice house with my family, who I'm close to - my Mam in particular. I have great friends who all live in and around Birmingham. My best friend Ray lives minutes from my house, and we always pop by to see each other or call each other up for a drink at short notice. And not forgetting my gorgeous boyfriend Sean, who lives half an hour away down the motorway. I have it good here, and I know I do.

I'm happy here. I'd struggle to leave my family, and it doesn't bare thinking about moving away from Ray. I love my Man and I see us having a great future together. I never went into this relationship thinking it would be the be all and end all of my life, but I also didn't come into it thinking it would just do for now. I'd started to make plans; considered moving out of home and possibly moving in with him. Not in great leaps or bounds, but it's what you do when you're settled with someone, you allow yourself to imagine the future you might have. But this is the debate you see.

My other half has already begun his career as a teacher. He has been to Uni, graduated with a good degree, completed his teacher training and landed himself a fantastic job at a really good school in Sutton. He hasn't been teaching long, but he's happy where he is and there's still so many options for him to rise up through the ranks and progress in his career. He has no reason to move, and I can't I blame him. He's worked hard to get where he is and he deserves the career he has now.

But I have itchy feet. Birmingham's great, and it's been my home for the last 21 years. But I have dreams to go places and see things. I want to land an excellent job, where I can work my way up to being a success and where I can feel like I'm getting total job satisfaction. My question is, am I going to get all that at a publication here in Brum? Will I be missing out on the lifestyle and the buzz and excitement of working in a core part of the industry if I stay where I am?

I know of people who cut everyone out of their lives and moved away to follow their dreams and be who they wanted to be, and there's an odd sense of admiration on my part about that. They are now hugely successful in their chosen field, but they are also lonely. They gave it all up, their friends, family, boyfriend and just did what made them happy - nothing to hold them back and nothing to stand in their way.

I haven't got it in me to just walk away, not when I've spent so long building a good life for myself right here - but that's the problem. If you don't break away to live your own life and follow your own dreams, will you look back and regret not being that little bit braver? That little bit more selfish, perhaps?

If I could just pick up the life I have here and move it away with me then I'd do it tomorrow, without a doubt. The best of both worlds; everyone I love, in the place I love, letting me do the thing I want most. But then the truth of the matter would be that everyone I love would have had to have sacrificed their lives to suit mine, and that just isn't right.

I think that's what I've come to realise, that a lot of the time your career and your personal life collide and you can't just have your cake and eat it. It all seems to be about sacrifice and compromise - but the question is what to sacrifice and compromise, my career or my personal life. It obviously isn't like this for everyone, as my Fella's happy as Larry where he is. Great job, near to home, which allows him to lead his life the way he wants. If only it was going to be that simple for me.

So I'm facing a choice in the near future, and as of yet I'm undecided on my path in life. Obviously, being fresh out of Uni, I'll take whatever jobs come my way and I won't set the bar too high to begin with, or limit myself to a particular area of the industry, until I can be more secure in my abilities. My worry is, that if one day the call comes in to say that I've been offered a dream job miles from home, I'll be left to face a seriously hard decision. Where do I choose to settle down, home or away?

In loving memory

One year ago today marks the sad passing of a great man, who touched so many people with his enthusiastic approach to life and his fun loving nature. Mitchell Courtney Calveley only lived a short 19 years on this Earth, but he made every second of it count, and left this life with so many people who loved and adored him.

As most who know me will know, I'm never usually lost for words, but for some reason today I'm finding it hard to express just how I feel about losing such a great person from my life. So, as I'm wanting to say something so beautiful and sincere about Mitch and his influence in my life, I think it best to revert to what I wrote about him when he first passed away. I hope all who read this can appreciate the sentiment, as I know he is sorely missed by both his family and friends.

"I never loved anyone like I loved Mitchell; probably because there was never anyone like Mitchell on this Earth. He was totally unique. He was always just himself, and he always did what made him happy. He lived life to the full. He worked hard and he played hard, and that's why people loved him. Because he was just Mitchell, and that was enough to brighten anyone's day.

He made me feel things I didn't really understand. I could never understand how he could make me laugh out loud and annoy the hell out of me in the same moment, but I guess that's what was really great about him, because I could never stay mad at him for long. One flash of that beautiful smile of his and I'd melt like butter. I'm sure many people he knew would agree with me on that one.

Mitch showed me what it was like to fall head over heels in love with someone, and with him I was falling a little bit more every day. I know that I will treasure every minute I ever spent with him.

One of his close friends once said to me that there were never any bad times with Mitchell, only good times to remember - and I think that is something that proves what a wonderful person he really was.

If Mitchell's passing has showed me anything, it is how truly amazing he really was. He touched so many people in this life, and there was rarely a bad word said about him. He just seemed to make everyone's lives that little bit better just for knowing him.

He was a great friend, a loving boyfriend, a supportive brother and a son to be proud of. He will be sorely missed by more people than he could have ever known. He will never be forgotten, and he will always be loved by those he made so happy in this lifetime.

Forever in our hearts Mitch xx"